• Fedizen@lemmy.world
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    4 hours ago

    “Woman of your caliber” and “apologize in person” is too much but honestly this is like 80% of a good approach: direct, short, setup a meeting in person, in public.

  • NeilNuggetstrong@lemmy.world
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    11 hours ago

    When I was young and tried to get dates on tinder I tried to come up with a carefully thought out opening line for every match. That hardly worked and probably had the opposite effect. Once I started to just don’t give a shit, and ask directly if they would like to meet for a beer, coffee, bowling or something I got quite a few dates.

    If I couldn’t get a date planned within the first few messages, or the second day after matching, I just moved on. A lot of people are just interested in validation and are not really interested in meeting up.

    This guy’s message is a bit edgy, but at least he’s straight to the point. She probably ignored him, and he just moved on.

  • Kushan@lemmy.world
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    20 hours ago

    You know what, it’s not for me but I’ll give the guy credit, it’s at least somewhat original in the sea of mediocrity that is online dating. A bit of self-depreciation too.

    If he’d just worded that first line a bit differently, it might not even come across as creepy, but alas…