• Tylerdurdon@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    One thing that no one ever told me about being a parent was that it would be so much fun. Getting to be the one who introduces another human to everything doesn’t get old. Is it challenging? Of course, but everything in life has pros and cons. The bond I have with the little ones is something I’d never give up and life before was easy-mode. You do have to grow beyond being selfish though. Some people can’t (and that’s okay, they shouldn’t be parents). That’s what this picture makes me think.

    • ZkhqrD5o@lemmy.world
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      2 days ago

      IMO: the reason I don’t want kids is because I can’t imagine myself saying: “Now, after a long day of work at my full-time job, I can’t wait to get home to my other, unpaid caretaker full-time job.” IMO being a good parent is hard work and I if I were to be a parent, I want to do it properly.

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      3 days ago

      Yeah, I tell my kids all the time that without winter, summer just isn’t as enjoyable, and that even in late August and early September I’ll say, you know what, I’m ready to change it up. I don’t have this expectation of perfection from any facet of life, including my kids and the relationship I have with them. The bads and the goods are all part of the experience, and to me the experience is rewarding.

      But I absolutely don’t fault someone for wanting perpetual summer. Summer is great.

  • RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    While not everyone should have kids and I fully support people choosing not to have any…

    You can have this and have kids. Just not every day. Unless you’re stupid wealthy and have a nanny or something.

    But maybe I’m weird and am one of the few that actually like my kids and having them around. Sure, they can be a pain in the ass sometimes, but not so much that I want to escape them or anything.

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      3 days ago

      If you’re stupidly wealthy to have this daily? Kids are irrelevant.

      Reality is, people chronically online are incapable of raising a child because the reality is, they can’t imagine caring for someone other than themselves.

      Having a child to share your hobbies is awesome. You ever needed a coop buddy? They got you covered for years and years!

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        2 days ago

        The people with this sentiment are largely jaded women who skipped kids and have to cope themselves and the next generation into sharing their spinster misery. It’s a tale as old as time lol. It’s this very weird phenomenon specifically with women to want to spread their misery to other women. It’s a hyper competitive behavior that seems to peak in their 40s/50s

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    3 days ago

    Every time I see one of these posts, it reads like ‘I can’t have kids because that would get in the way of my wanking and smoking pot time’ I mean, it is all good but it’s never ‘my job is very demanding and it would stop me from being able to parent’ or something.