Reading this thread I think the conclusion is that both men and women can consider themselves “perverted” but the bounds of what each consider “too extreme” is so different that they both think that the other side is just too kinky/disgusting.

Edit: or maybe I mean the other way around. People saying “yeah I’m kinky” and someone else going “eh, that’s nothing”. Two people both thinking two different things are extreme and then learning that mutually, both their extremes are considered tame by the other person.