I don’t always measure for baking - for bread and pastry I do weigh everything (ETA not because there is an ideal - there is still a range of amounts that will work - but because I want to know what the hydration % is) but for cakes I do them like cornbread, it’s more proportions - I know that for 3 eggs I need a certain amount of flour, I know how much baking powder and salt per cup of flour, and how much fat, milk or buttermilk or yogurt or ricotta, whatever - know it will work if I get it in the ballpark.

For cooking yep I am a yeehaw no recipe anarchist. Or more accurately, I read recipes for inspiration then don’t look at them while cooking, but I am old and have made so many mistakes over the years I know what I’m doing. It feels like intuition but is experience.

Which is the after?

Absolutely for the taste. I don’t bother with alcoholic drinks unless they are delicious. Water is a lovely accompaniment to any food. But yes a wine that aligns with the food can make both more than the sum of the parts, and liquors can make cocktails amazing & complex tasting instead of just being fruit punch or soda.

I do like a light buzz for a short time -any more than that I don’t enjoy.

Hand model, gloves all the time!

It does sound like you are lonely.
I quite like being alone and doing things alone, because I am not often alone so it is luxurious and indulgent.

If you think everyone in the world except you is a loud drunk idiot, that might explain why you are so often alone though. Why in the world would you judge everyone else and hold yourself apart? There is zero chance that you are not like anyone else in the world and the rest of us just suck.

We love sex and do it everyday, and generally do compromise up (if either of us want to we do) but I so love me some nuance, too. Often, approach does matter and it’s nice. “wanna fuck” because I am bored is less likely to land than if I approach my husband physically, I know this. He knows me too, and how to get me started.

Again - I don’t think it’s necessarily a requirement, just good to know how to ask, and to be aware of how your partner is feeling at the moment. Likely better results if you care to.

Sexy time? No thanks

Movie? No thanks

What do you want to do?

Sit on the porch with you, have a drink and talk, go for a walk, sleep, whatever.

Why not just ask? Or:

I’m gonna watch Hot Fuzz, do you want to?

OMG you are so hot I want you right now.

Not that it’s someone’s responsibility to know how to ask things, but I think it does help to you know, know your partner. Someone asking “sexy time?” wouldn’t make me want sex, and I might want to watch a movie if I know which one.

Even better - "I’m gonna play Genshin, unless you wanna watch a movie, is there anything you want to watch? "

Like, there are probably a thousand better ways to approach this. Maybe it’s in the delivery not the suggestions.

My husband can do that, and honestly I think it’s because he doesn’t sleep deeply enough, and gets up too early. So exhaustion works.

I fall asleep in a reasonable amount of time (satisfied with it) and exercise is the main thing I can tell helps me. Next most important I wait until I am actually sleepy before trying to sleep. Smaller factors but still helpful - progesterone (post menopause) before bed, putting down the phone an hour before bed, and a routine - I take a shower & do skincare.

My favorite is in the opposite direction - Porter Robinson covering Fontaines DC “favorite” in a 90s pop rock style. Such a good version of such a good song, and it’s worth reading the interview where he talks about recording it.

Not such fancy equipment. I used to make it in a lunchbox cooler with our very hard tap water; that eventually cracked but I have been rocking one of these for a decade now.

https://www.clearlyfrozen.com/

All you need is directional freezing. My ice comes out crystal clear in big ol’ blocks like that.

To be fair - I would charge $5 a tray too. It takes a day & a half and space in my freezer. But it is an easy, cheap, and fun hobby

I used to have less deep sleep and more than once, woke up, walked to the bathroom, sat on the toilet but was not completely convinced I was awake and not dreaming so could not pee. I was just so exhausted I didn’t know if I was asleep or awake!

Title sounds like Yoda. Fuck them, do you?

Fuck them, you do!

Huh. I have always liked guys my age, whatever that age is, and always for some reason have been pursued only by guys my age or younger (defining “my age” as a few years in either direction). Will need to see if that holds, but I didn’t expect it to still be true at this age so maybe.

Looks wise yeah I think more younger guys look better but OMG when I see a fit guy my age, that strikes me much more.

Caw! caw! Crows before bros!

That doesn’t look like a garden center.

Why be embarrassed to have sex? Be happy to have sex.

Something for everyone!

Not me but my friend was at a wedding and when they did the “does anyone here have a reason these two should not be wed” part, the crowd broke out in laughter.